“Don’t go at this life alone. Reach out to a fellow traveler to help you find your path.”
All of the quotes I post, have personal meaning to me. When I came across this one, I thought it was a great visual of how I often feel in my day to day grind. Before I realize that I need to reach out to a friend or a family member, I am already buried, so overwhelmed that I just want to crawl in a hole.
Can anyone relate?
Here are 4 quick tips that are helping me avoid the avalanche…
- Keep in contact with at least one or two friends during the week. Now when I write this, many of you may think that is silly. However, I know some of you are like me…I really like accomplishing tasks! I get started on my to do lists for work and before I know it the day is gone! And I have had NO communication with anyone who really knows me. Even though I am super relational, I get stuck in that rut too often. Reach out to a friend or a loved one just to touch base with them at least once a day. It doesn’t have to be the same person, although it can be.
- Be Authentic. This won’t be the first blog post you will hear that. It does ZERO good if you reach out to friends and then don’t really share your heart, your life, and your struggles. I’m not recommending you call that 1 friend (minimum) a day and dump everything you are struggling with, but be real if you need to be. Don’t wear a mask, that’s what gets us in trouble. I know that some of you reading this want to vomit thinking of calling someone to let them know you are struggling! We all have different personalities and comfort levels. What I am saying is you should be pursuing friendships that will help you grow and that you can be vulnerable with. Over my life, I have had several health struggles. It is easy for me to just tell everyone I am doing fine, when if you were my body- you would CLEARLY state the opposite. If I’m not in friendships that really prod me to be authentic then it is easy for me to get overwhelmed with my own yuck! Hope that makes sense. Baby steps, if you don’t have friends like that, stay tuned because we will dive deeper into that soon on another blog.
- Take 10 minutes at the end of the day to review your schedule for the next day. This has revolutionized my life! Seriously. The nights that I don’t review for what is up ahead next, are inevitably the ones that my next day starts disorganized and scattered. I still write in a calendar I carry with me everywhere. I also have my phone and have tried several apps to streamline all of them but writing works best for me. Find what avenue you want to chart your upcoming days and stick to it.
- Reflect on the things that went well in the day and things that you need to change. One night recently when I was reflecting on my day, I realized I needed to schedule things (appointments & non work related items) to the best of my ability early in the morning or late in the day. I notice when my day is choppy, I tend to get off task and tend to be less productive. When I take time to structure my day, I can work with my clients, write, or work on upcoming classes in bulk of the day. If I don’t take time to reflect on what is working and what isn’t EVERY day, then I do myself and my sanity a disservice!
Thought you may find these tips that I am implementing beneficial to you. Let me know your quick tips that help you avoid the demands of a busy life.
As a Certified Coach, Teacher and Speaker, Dana McKee offers workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching to aid in the personal and professional growth of individuals and groups.